Why You Should Date Someone Who is Not Your Type

Does your dating life feel like it’s on a loop? Do you feel like you keep dating the same guy over and over? And ultimately breaking up with the same guy over and over? If so, maybe it’s time to think about your type and if it’s working for you.

If you keep dating the same type of person and ending up in the same situation – alone – your type is probably not working for you. That means it’s time to take a step, or maybe a leap, out of your comfort zone and open yourself up to dating all different kinds of people.

Elisa Robichaud, of Redondo Beach, California, says, “One of the big things for me, when I was dating, was forcing myself to be open to new people who weren’t necessarily my type. I started dating guys of different ethnicities and different religious backgrounds. It was a lot of fun.”

The key is to be open. When you decide the people you date must be over a certain height or have dark hair or they must be from a certain geographical area, you narrow down your possibilities and exclude people before you ever meet them. It’s good to know what you like, but it’s also important that you don’t hurt your chances of finding love. So, if you have a 72 point checklist about the people you date, you might want to ask yourself, “Am I too picky?”

Once you decide to dare to take some chances, you may find success. Elisa Robichaud did.

“I had always liked guys from the Midwest. But once I decided to be more open, this random dude from New Hampshire just swept me off my feet,” she says. She and a New Hampshire guy married in October.

So, if you’re not having success with your type, think about the people you’ve been dating and try meeting people who are unlike them. Set a goal you’re comfortable with, whether that means dating two or 10 people who have different backgrounds, ethnicities, hobbies, interests, looks, or styles than you’re used to. Then let us know how it improved your Fantasy Dating game!

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