It can feel like a never-ending high school when all you hear is gossip and drama. Perhaps it’s your catty co-workers. Your nosy neighbors. The last person you went on a date with. It’s like everyone is fair game. It can make you feel like you could be the next possible victim at any time.
Did anyone think we’d be dealing with this much drama and gossip after high school? If you are sick and tired of being thrown backward in time, here are some great ways to put drama back in its place.
1: Don’t Engage.
If you feed the drama monster, it will keep coming back for more. Don’t encourage it at all. This means as soon as Jenny from next door calls to tell you her daily drama, politely tell her, “I’m sorry Jenny, but I can’t talk right now. I hope you get everything resolved.” If you do this enough times, she will either figure out her ordeal or find some other poor soul to listen to the dramatics of her life.
2: Create a Drama free Zone.
I like to say that I have a 50ft Drama Free Zone around me at all times. In order to create this Drama Free Zone, I do my best to rid my life of those that bring drama to me. Do a little weeding…you know, those “friends” that offer you nothing but drama and gossip, cut them out of your life. You won’t miss anything but the drama. Save your inner circle for those that actually add value to your life.
3: Understand You don’t need it.
Really, you don’t need the drama. If you are one of those people that crave drama in relationships or feel that you need “excitement” at all times, the problem is you. Seriously. Seek some professional help and figure out why it is that you need drama in your life. Keep it out of your life and instead watch some version of the Real Housewives. Let them have all the drama!
4: Profect the Right Energy.
I am a firm believer that you attract what you put out. Make sure you are living your life in a way that doesn’t add to the drama. Is there a problem you can solve without involving the world? Do it. Take charge of your life. Don’t make a big deal about everything. Be solution-oriented. Project kindness and calmness and it will come back to you.
5: Diffuse and Deflect.
When all else fails and someone still insists on sneaking drama into your life, diffuse it. Go ahead and listen and then immediately offer a solution. Close the case. If that doesn’t work, direct the drama queen to another topic.
Hopefully, you can trim the drama fat off your plate and enjoy a nice cold glass of calm this evening. As Fergie would say, “You don’t want no drama. No, no, drama, no, no, no, no drama.”
Marina Sbrochi grew up in Dublin, Ohio, and attended The Ohio State University, she’s a forever Buckeye. She is the IPPY Award-winning author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life. She is a dating coach in Dallas, Texas. You can find more at stoplookingforahusband.com, on Facebook, and on Twitter.