Fantasy Dater Question: Why Won’t He Call Me His Girlfriend

Before we deep dive into the murky waters of why the guy you’re dating doesn’t call you his “girlfriend,” ask yourself, do you really want him to?

Strip away what anybody else thinks or what you’re “supposed to be doing” after seeing each other for two, six or however many months. Think about whether or not you want to be his girlfriend.

Does he meet all your non-negotiables? Is he everything you want in a boyfriend? Because there’s no need to get anxious over something if he’s not the right guy for you.

If you are absolutely sure you want to be his girlfriend and he’s not referring to you that way, it’s possible that he might not be that interested in you.

When a guy is crazy about you, he will tell everyone he knows about his amazing girlfriend. So, if he’s not labeling you, chances are, this guy enjoys things just the way they are – noncommittal.

Knowing that the last thing you should do is try to get him to commit. Nobody likes to be forced into anything. And nothing will make your man run faster than telling him, “We need to talk.”

Having that “What are we doing?” talk is a huge turn-off. (Not to mention a flashback to high school.) It’s not only smothering, but it can make you appear needy and not very confident. So, whatever you do, don’t initiate that painfully awkward conversation. It will only lead to disaster.

Instead, just enjoy yourself. Guys love fun. They don’t love drama or needy chicks. If you two have a good time together, keep having a good time. But at the same time, be open. Remember, finding love is a numbers game, so continue Fantasy Dating. If another guy asks you on a date, go. And if the guy you’ve been dating suddenly seems concerned, tell him you didn’t think the two of you were exclusive.

He’ll get the hint. If he really likes you, he’ll claim you. If he likes you just enough to hang out every so often, you get to decide if that’s enough for you. But if you’d rather be in a committed relationship with one person, move on and make room for that person.

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