If you’re not familiar with the Law of Attraction, it basically means that what you put out there is what you get back. So when your actions are based on good intentions and love, the majority of the time, others will treat you with good intentions and love.
That said, take a look at your dating behaviors and consider what you may be attracting by the things you do. If you are conducting any of the dating behaviors below, ditch them immediately.
Jealousy
It can be difficult to avoid jealousy. If the guy or girl you’re dating is ogling other singles or flirting with them, it’s hard not to get upset. But instead of getting jealous, ditch that person. Why would you want to date someone who is disrespectful to you?
Suspicion
When your intuition tells you something is wrong, listen. That doesn’t mean you should accuse your partner of shady activities. It means quietly observe the situation, gather enough information on your own to decipher what is and isn’t happening, and then exit quietly.
But being suspicious all the time, especially when someone is not up to something, says a lot more about you than it does about them. If you’re constantly worried that someone is cheating on you or doesn’t love you enough, that’s directly tied to a lack of confidence.
Snooping
See how all these behaviors are tying together? Somebody who is jealous is likely suspicious and will probably snoop on their partner. Snooping is not okay. First, imagine how you would feel if someone snooping through your phone or dresser drawers. Not so good, right?
Second, ask yourself, what are you snooping for? Evidence? What difference does it make if you find evidence of bad behavior or not? The problem is, you’re feeling jealous and suspicious enough to make you snoop. And any relationship that’s existing in a realm of jealously and suspicion is not healthy.
Remove yourself from those types of situations immediately and think about why you got in them in the first place. All of these behaviors are tied to a lack of confidence. Confident, content people do not put up with partners who are jealous, suspicious or snoop. Nor do they exhibit those behaviors.
So if any of this feels familiar, you’ve probably got some work to do. The good news is, confidence is something you can work on. You can work with life coaches, dating coaches, and therapists to grow your confidence. For exercises on how to love yourself, check out the 40 Day LoveFest.
Do the work on yourself and when you’re ready, get back in the game. You’ll be amazed at how you’ll never have the urge to snoop again.